Pardon the RBF.
On the coattails of a(nother) challenging interaction with my “starter spouse”, I found this article on how to handle high conflict people: How Emotionally Intelligent People Respond to Conflict by Marcel Schwantes / Inc.
The article points to the clearly explored idea of Reacting v. Responding.
The former is bound to get you more of the same.
The latter might actually get you somewhere.
The question is: Are you ready to rise above?