We all need help. If you believe that you can do it on your own, you probably need it more than everyone else. We all get by with a little help from our friends.
But what if the person who can help you the most is the one you least expected :
When you blend a family of 6 with special needs ranging from heart defects to ADHD, Depression, Anxiety, OCD, impulsivity control, executive function deficiencies, divorce and Eating Disorders, you can have some very intense dynamics from time to time. While there’s no end to the depth and breadth of our “conditions”, the DSM-5 really has no diagnosis for what we are, an average American family.
If you have an upcoming SST meeting you already know the key players in your child’s Student Support Team. It could include teachers, school psychologists, guidance counselors, speech-language therapists, occupational therapists, school nurses as well as the key administrators at your school. While you put your plan together for that first meeting, it pays to go A.P.E.
Our kids are a beautiful mixture of fragility and resilience. Here are 10 tips to keep them and your home joyful this holiday season. Slow down. One of the biggest mistakes we make is trying to cram too much into the month … Continue reading 10 Stay-Sane Holiday Tips
A child with “special needs” is a broad spectrum of conditions that can strain a family. Whether it’s a physical disability, a cognitive delay or both, early intervention and a positive environment are the 2 key factors that can help keep a family together. While the likelihood of divorce increases when one or more children have special needs and educational requirements, the reasons for divorce can be varied. A study in Maternal and Child Health Journal recognizes the financial and psychological strain accompanying the daily and longterm attention associated with a child with special needs including low birth rate. In fact, these couples have 2x the likelihood of divorcing. Continue reading “Divorce More Likely with Kids with Special Needs”
It’s my son’s 9th birthday, the 5th birthday that has passed since his dad and I parted ways. I look at this guy, my youngest, who’s always smiling, lost in an imaginative world of superheroes and swashbuckling adventures, and I wonder “Will … Continue reading Born Again
The things we tell our kids become their inner voices as adults. When going through a divorce, it’s hard to break free from the costly price of guilt, shame and fear. Sondheim said it best “Careful the things you say, … Continue reading What Really Goes on in a Child’s Mind
The last words any parent wants to hear are “I WANT TO GO TO MY OTHER HOUSE!”. These words are usually said in response to laying down the law, turning off the tablet, or in front of plate of Brussels … Continue reading Just the FACTs
“I don’t give a flying fuck who makes better garlic bread.” Continue reading Step-parenting is the New Black
When we don’t take the time after divorce to free ourselves from the shackles of pain, it damages our children in these ways. Continue reading Who Pays the Price for Your Pain